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Brenda Evelyn BAILEY

Brenda Evelyn BAILEY

Female 1930 - 2003  (73 years)    Has 954 ancestors and 4 descendants in this family tree.


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  • Name Brenda Evelyn BAILEY 
    Relationshipwith Teresa Ann GOATHAM
    Born 1 Jan 1930  “Electra”, 84, Main Ridge, Boston, Lincolnshire, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Brenda Bailey's birth certificate
    Brenda Bailey's birth certificate
    Baptised 20 Apr 1930  St. Botolph’s Church (“The Stump”), Boston, Lincolnshire, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    • (baptism was on Easter Day)
    The font in Boston Stump
    The font in Boston Stump
    Presumably my mother was baptised at this impressive font
    Gender Female 
    Illness TB in the Knee 
    From 1931 to 1933  Dame Hannah Rogers Orthopaedic Hospital, Ivybridge, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    • Slipping on a lino floor my mother banged her knee and TB developed in the joint. She was in hospital for about 18 months, had her leg in a calliper until she was (I think) aged 17 and for the rest of her life had the inconvenience of a stiff leg, i.e. it was left with a slight bend in it, but she could not straighten it or bend it more.

      The bacterium responsible was was probably Mycobacterium bovis, which causes TB in cattle, but was responsible for many instances of TB, especially the extrapulmonary ones before milk was routinely pasteurised. My mother then spent about 18 months in hospital. This was in the days before the National Health Service and she went to a special hospital / school in Ivybridge, which developed from a bequest by Dame Hannah Rogers who was concerned that children with physical disabilities were being denied an education. (History of the school)
      She had been living in digs in Plymouth with her mother (her father being away at sea). Ivybridge was about 12 miles away, and I don't know how often my grandmother would have been able to visit but I understand my mother was so upset everytime she left at the end of a visit that visits were restricted to one a month.
      With the involvement of a charity I imagine the charges were not large, but even so the cost led to my grandmother becoming ill; when she visited the doctor she was told she just needed a square meal, and was introduced to a "penny a week" scheme which enabled her to claim for the costs of my mother's care without starving herself.

      Had she been a little older my mother's leg would have been amputated, had she been a little younger it would have been stiffened to be straight leg more quickly. As it was my mother had a leg which  with just a slight bend in it, probably more useful for walking than the completely straight ones, definitely better than a wooden leg. The caliper she had till aged about 17 clearly this had to be replaced a number of times as she grew; one intended replacement was lost in the bombing of Exeter. The caliper protected the leg from damage so my mother enjoyed a freedom while wearing it that she didn't have later. She even cycled around a bit in Boston with her good leg pushing down and pulling up one pedal, the other hitting the caliper which wasn't quite held up enough to be out of the way!
      One employer wanted her to be registered as disabled (sometime bet 1947-62) - good for him to be employing someone disabled but whether or not due to my mother playing down the limitations I don't know but she was not found to qualify as disabled. Walking was always more effort, and steps had to be taken one at a time (or at least, good foot first for each; when younger this was often 2 at a time). For most of my mother's life this wasn't very noticeable apart from when the terrain was more demanding e.g. walking up a steep hill. Later in her life when she became asthmatic, although the asthma was not severe, the existing extra demands of walking around meant the two togehter were more limiting, and my mother did register as disabled.
           
      [ Source for the above: my mother, who told me verbally; obviously she must have been told most of this herself, so errors may have crept in, but I am sure that this is approximately correct] 
      [ source re bovine TB - see p5 (Gernez-Rieux) http://www.oie.int/doc/ged/d7402.pdf ]]
    church From 1933 to 1941  St. Thomas’s Church, Keyham, Devonport, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    • I can remember my mother mentioning both St. Mark's Ford and St. Thomas's Keyham; she attended Sunday School at one (I think St. Thomas's), I can't think why she would have mentioned the other.
      She resumed contact with a Mr and Mrs Cawsley who ran the Sunday School. She talked of one (every?) Palm Sunday going up into the church to receive Palm Crosses - I think from the Sunday School in a crypt - or were there just steps up into the church?

      Information about St. Thomas
    Education Mrs Watts School 
    From 1936 to 1941  Devonport, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Residence 1 Jan 1939  84, Barton Avenue, Keyham Barton, Devonport, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    • The address (with date) that my mother wrote into a utility loose leaf notebook (notebook has a small pocket on the front, in which were a cutting showing Plymouth Hoe Lido damaged by bombing, and 2 tiny children's picture books - Snow White and Popeye.
      My Mum and her parents lived in digs, they didn't own or rent the house.
    Residence Jun 1940  59, Alexandra Road, Ford, Devonport, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    • On her father's naval papers where the details of nearest known relative or friend are shown the address 84 Barton Avenue has been crossed out and replaced with this address; the change is dated 6/40.
      Again, my Mum and her parents were living in digs.
    Education Boston High School 
    From 1941 to 1942  Boston, Lincolnshire, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Education Mayfield School 
    From 1942 to 1947  Putney, Surrey, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Occupation Bank clerk and other clerical 
    From 1947 to 1963 
    Occupation Housewife 
    From 1963 
    Died 21 Jun 2003  Torbay Hospital, Torquay, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Death certificate for Brenda Bailey
    Death certificate for Brenda Bailey
    Funeral 30 Jun 2003  St. Saviour’s Church, Dartmouth, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    • My mother's funeral was a Requiem Mass, as was her wish.

      A couple of years (?) before my mother died she and my father attended a funeral that was very much a meorial service, about the person who had died rather than a traditional funeral. My mother didn't like it and mentioned it to me - checking "You know Daddy and I want traditional funerals, don't you". Well no, I didn't, as she had never mentioned it before. "No, but I do now". I attended a funeral shortly after my mother's cancer was diagnosed, when she was in hospital to have a stent fitted. Visiting her later that day she asked "Was it a Eucharist?" - and then asked if I knew that she and my Dad wanted their funerals to be in the context of the Eucharist. Maybe a slightly unusual view of  a traditional Church of England funeral!

      I asked the rest of the family for suggestions for hymns. Silence. I suggested one. Agreed. Asked for ideas for a second. The same happened - in the end I choose all 4.
      "Dear Lord and Father of Mankind" - my mother's favourite;
      "Gracious Spirit, Holy Ghost" - the one my mother had choosen for my parents' wedding;
      and two because of their suitability for a funeral:
      "Jerusalem the Golden" and
      "Jesus Lives, thy terrors now ..."

      The choir kindly attended and asked what we would like them to sing. My mother was not over-found of choral music, but she loved an Orthodox settin g of the Lord's prayer that was on "Your Hundred Best Tunes" from time-to-time when I was a child - I think it was the Rimsky-Korsakov setting.  More appropriate for a funeral is the Kontakion of the Departed, not by Rimsky-Korsakov but still in the distinctive Orthodox style, so I asked for that. I grew up with it being sung every Remembrance Sunday at the church where I lived as a child but it turned out the choir in Dartmouth didn't know it so it was a great compliment to my mother that they would take the trouble to learn it in the less than a week between my asking and the funeral. (I have since discovered it was part of the service when the War Memorial on which my closest relation to die in WWI, a brother of my grandfather, was dedicated) 

      After my mother's funeral the bells were rung (open) before and after - I was able to take part in the ringing afterwards, as the ringing room is entered from the gallery at the back of the church, where we had refreshments.
    Cremated 30 Jun 2003  Torbay Crematorium, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Buried 12 Jul 2003  St. Peter’s Church, Stoke Fleming, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    • Burial of ashes as was her wish, in the grave also containing her parents' ashes
    Grant of Administration Calendar entry 
    11 Nov 2003  Salisbury, Wiltshire, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    • From Find a will website and I was the person granted admon. (Salisbury is a sub-office of the Winchester Registry)
    Religion Anglican 
    Person ID I2  All | Teresa's direct ancestors, England: Kent Group (in Go(a)tham One-Name Study), England: Kent Group - subjects of Go(a)tham One-Name Study, All in the Goatham / Gotham One-Name Study , All subjects of the Goatham / Gotham One-Name Study, The descendants of Charles Court and Frances née Tapner, The descendants (and other halves) of Charles Goatham and Sybilla née Hunt, The descendants (and other halves) of George Goatham and Ann née Winch, The Inman eighth - ancestors and descendants of Philip Inman and Sarah née Craven, The descendants (and other halves) of John Prior and Amy née Reynolds, The descendants (and other halves) of Richard Whitehead and Mary née Grigsby
    Last Modified 30 Apr 2018 

    Father Henry ("Fred or Bill") BAILEY,   b. 22 Jun 1899, 11, Stainton Street, Westoe, Co. Durham, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location,   d. 16 Oct 1984, Princess Alice Hospital, Eastbourne, Sussex, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location  (Age 85 years) 
    Mother Florence Minnie HAMBLING,   b. 2 Jul 1900, 62, Carlyle Road, Ealing, Middlesex, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location,   d. 24 Jan 1974, St. Mary’s Hospital, Eastbourne, Sussex, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location  (Age 73 years) 
    Courtship From 1926 to 1929 
    • One Remembrance Sunday, I guess in about 1926, when Granddad was on the staff of Dartmouth Royal Naval College, he went with a colleague who was to play Reveille before the 2 minutes silence in Stoke Fleming (about 2 miles from Dartmouth).
      There in the churchyard they met a civilian member of the staff at the college, Syd Huddy, who lived in Stoke Fleming. He introduced them to 2 local girls - my grandmother and a friend. They arranged a date for the 4 of them, my grandmother at first partnering the bugle player. It didn't take long for them to switch partners - and the rest is history.

      My grandfather at first gave his name as "Fred". I believe making up a name was common practice. Then when he got seriously interested in my grandmother he folded his coat for her to see his true name. However, being used to calling him Fred she stuck with it, and he remained Fred - not just to her, but to most people outside of his own family (where he remained Henry) and work colleagues (where he was Bill - due to the old song and his surname).
    Banns of marriage To reflect Granddad's residence at Britannia Royal Naval College 
    Abt Mar 1929  St. Saviour’s Church, Dartmouth, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Married 1 Apr 1929  St. Botolph’s Church (“The Stump”), Boston, Lincolnshire, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Children
    +1. Brenda Evelyn BAILEY,   b. 1 Jan 1930, “Electra”, 84, Main Ridge, Boston, Lincolnshire, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location,   d. 21 Jun 2003, Torbay Hospital, Torquay, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location  (Age 73 years)
     
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    Family ID F3    |  Family Chart

    Family Eric Herbert John GOATHAM,   b. 11 May 1921, 46a, Dornton Road, Balham, London, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location,   d. 23 Feb 2004, Salisbury District Hospital, Wiltshire, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location  (Age 82 years) 
    Engaged Abt 1955  Balham, London, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Engagement photo of Eric Goatham and Brenda Bailey
    Engagement photo of Eric Goatham and Brenda Bailey
    Going to date this I realise I don't know when my parents became engaged - I'll have to look in their diaries!
    Banns of marriage In the Parish my Dad lived in 
    Jun 1956  The Ascension, Balham Hill, Malwood Road, Balham, London, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Banns certificate for the marriage of Eric Goatham to Brenda Bailey
    Banns certificate for the marriage of Eric Goatham to Brenda Bailey
    Banns had to be read at three churches as my parents lived in 2 different parishes and married in a third (at the church at which they mostly worshipped).
    Banns were read at The Ascension, Balham Hill as my Dad was living in that parish.
    Banns of marriage In the Parish my Mum lived in 
    Jun 1956  St. Luke’s Church, Battersea, London, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    Banns certificate for the marriage of Eric Goatham to Brenda Bailey
    Banns certificate for the marriage of Eric Goatham to Brenda Bailey
    Banns certificate for the marriage of Eric Goatham to Brenda Bailey
    Banns were read at St. Luke's Church, Battersea as my Mum was living in that parish.
    Married 7 Jul 1956  St. Mary’s Church, Balham, London, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location 
    • GRO ref: Goatham, Eric H J to Bailey, Brenda E q3 1956 Wandsworth RD 5d 1595
    Certificate for the marriage of Eric Goatham to Brenda Bailey
    Certificate for the marriage of Eric Goatham to Brenda Bailey
    Children 2 children 
    Last Modified 27 Nov 2017 
    Family ID F2    |  Family Chart

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    Link to Google MapsBorn - 1 Jan 1930 - “Electra”, 84, Main Ridge, Boston, Lincolnshire, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsBaptised - 20 Apr 1930 - St. Botolph’s Church (“The Stump”), Boston, Lincolnshire, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsIllness - TB in the Knee - From 1931 to 1933 - Dame Hannah Rogers Orthopaedic Hospital, Ivybridge, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google Mapschurch - From 1933 to 1941 - St. Thomas’s Church, Keyham, Devonport, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsEducation - Mrs Watts School - From 1936 to 1941 - Devonport, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsResidence - 1 Jan 1939 - 84, Barton Avenue, Keyham Barton, Devonport, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsResidence - Jun 1940 - 59, Alexandra Road, Ford, Devonport, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsEducation - Boston High School - From 1941 to 1942 - Boston, Lincolnshire, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsEngaged - Abt 1955 - Balham, London, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsBanns of marriage - In the Parish my Dad lived in - Jun 1956 - The Ascension, Balham Hill, Malwood Road, Balham, London, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsBanns of marriage - In the Parish my Mum lived in - Jun 1956 - St. Luke’s Church, Battersea, London, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsMarried - 7 Jul 1956 - St. Mary’s Church, Balham, London, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsChild born - Teresa Ann GOATHAM - 31 Jan 1963 - Farnborough Hospital, Kent, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsDied - 21 Jun 2003 - Torbay Hospital, Torquay, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsFuneral - 30 Jun 2003 - St. Saviour’s Church, Dartmouth, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsCremated - 30 Jun 2003 - Torbay Crematorium, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
    Link to Google MapsBuried - 12 Jul 2003 - St. Peter’s Church, Stoke Fleming, Devon, England See the place on a map and other information about it - if available (many more will be in time); also all individuals with events at this location Link to Google Earth (if installed; see link below to install)
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    Stories from Wartime Plymouth
    Stories from Wartime Plymouth
    I only came across my mother's memories after she died. Though I had heard her speak of some of this I didn't know about the tin of marbles, which sadly we don't now have.
    I knew of her friend who was killed - my mother always remembered her and was pleased to go to a special service at St. Andrew's Church in Plymouth, I think in the 1990s, to remember the war victims.
    My mother and grandmother were unscathed, and only lost some sheets that were at a laundry in the bombing of…

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