Eliza Sarah GOATHAM

1915 - 1995  (80 years)

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• Name	Eliza Sarah GOATHAM
  Relationship	with Teresa Ann GOATHAM
  Born	31 Jul 1915	London Road, Borden, Kent, England
  	GRO ref: Goatham, Eliza S, mother's maiden name: Trice q3 1915 Milton RD 2a 1740; GRO online index shows Christian names as Eliza Sarah Actual date from both 1939 register and death registration index, place from the 1921 census. Details from birth registration (image of GRO register entry). Probably born at home, as born in the same road her mother (the informant) was living in.
  Gender	Female
  Residence	From 1919 to 1925	1, Duvards Place, Pond Farm Lane, Borden, Kent, England
  	Assumed lived in Borden from her birth in 1915 to 1925 (when her mother sought a separation). At 1 Duvards Place by the time the birth of her sister Lilian was registered in 1919, at the time of the 1921 census and when her mother sought a separation late in 1925. Duvards Place is a terrace of 8 houses on a track just off Pond Farm Lane. At the time of the 1921 census Eliza was there with her parents and three siblings.
  Residence	1927	Mill House, Deans Hill, Bredgar, Kent, England
  	Assuming was living with her mother when her father died.
  Residence	1939	8, Waverley Road, Rainham, Essex, England
  	When the 1939 register was compiled, with her husband and 3 others, presumably her 3 children (entries closed as at 21 Dec 2016). (Archive ref: Ref: RG101/1525I/026/35 Letter Code: DCBZ)
  Died	Nov 1995	Havering Reg Dist, Essex, England
  	GRO ref: Murphy, Eliza Sarah reg Nov 1995 dob 31 Jul 1915 Havering RD register HC77, district / sub-d 2341C, entry 239 Although Murphy is quite a common name, this seems to be the only dth of an Eliza S Murphy of the right age. DOB matches that given in 1939 register, which shows her with a Henry and 3 others  (i.e. fits marriage) and middle name matches that in GRO online index.
  Siblings	2 brothers and 1 sister
  + 1. Joseph William GOATHAM,   b. 2 Mar 1907, Frinsted, Kent, England ,   d. 23 Jun 1974, Sittingbourne Reg Dist, Kent, England  (Age 67 years) ▻ Phyllis May TOMLIN,  m. Dec Q 1932 + 2. Rex GOATHAM,   b. 16 Apr 1913, Borden, Kent, England ,   d. 2 Jan 1981, Petersfield Reg Dist, Hampshire, England  (Age 67 years) ▻ Zita Mary Gladys DEAR,  m. 6 Apr 1940 + 3. Eliza Sarah GOATHAM,   b. 31 Jul 1915, London Road, Borden, Kent, England ,   d. Nov 1995, Havering Reg Dist, Essex, England  (Age 80 years) ▻ Henry MURPHY,  m. Jun Q 1937 + 4. Lilian Mary (“Lily”) GOATHAM,   b. 20 May 1919, 1, Duvards Place, Pond Farm Lane, Borden, Kent, England ,   d. 22 Jan 2008, Eye, Suffolk, England  (Age 88 years) ▻ Sidney George WELLBY,  m. Sep Q 1940
  Origins
  Patriarch & Matriarch	GOATHAM,   d. Yes, date unknown  (9 x Great Grandfather)  Sarah Ann TRICE,   b. Mar Q 1852, Hollingbourne Reg Dist, Kent, England ,   d. Dec Q 1886, Milton Reg Dist, Kent, England  (Age ~ 34 years)  (Grandmother)
  Person ID	I2379	All | England: Kent Group (in Go(a)tham One-Name Study), England: Kent Group - subjects of Go(a)tham One-Name Study, All in the Goatham / Gotham One-Name Study , All subjects of the Goatham / Gotham One-Name Study, The descendants (and other halves) of George Goatham and Ann née Winch
  Last Modified	19 Apr 2024

  
  

  Father	Percy John GOATHAM,   b. Dec Q 1877, Bredgar, Kent, England ,   d. 24 Mar 1927, The Hut, Pett Field, Bredgar, Kent, England  (Age ~ 50 years)
  Mother	Beatrice Ellen May TRICE,   b. 16 Aug 1883, Kingsdown near Lynsted, Kent, England ,   d. Dec 1954, Queenborough, Sheppey, Kent, England  (Age 71 years)
  Banns of marriage	From 30 Sep 1906 to 14 Oct 1906	St. Dunstan’s Church, Frinsted, Kent, England
  	From banns register (image on FMP, viewed 20 Jan 2023)
  Married	15 Oct 1906	St. Dunstan’s Church, Frinsted, Kent, England
  	GRO ref: Goatham, Percy John to Trice, Beatrice Ellen M q4 1906 Hollingbourne RD 2a 1685 Details from FreeREG website (transcribed data) Register entry no. 93 Percy John Goatham, age 28, Bachelor, occupation: Fruit dealer, father: Joseph Goatham, father's occupation: Fruit dealer to Beatrice Ellen May Trice, age 23, Spinster, [no occupation given], father: William Trice, father's occupation: Carpenter Witnesses: William Goatham, Susan Ellen Goatham Who were the witnesses? - I guess William was Percy's brother, but I know of no Susan Ellen Goatham, I suspect this is a mistake on FreeREG and should be Susan Eliza, Percy's mother. (no marriage register on FMP, indexed or to browse, as at 30 Mar 2021)
  Separated	From 24 Oct 1925
  	After a few years of treating Beatrice "unkindly" she left him in 1925, leaving on 24 Oct and applying for a separation order on 7 Nov at Sittingbourne Petty Sessions: "HOME LIFE WRECKED BY DRINK   Beatrice Ellen Mary Goatham, No. 1, Duvard's Place, Borden, applied for a separation order against her husband, Percy John Goatham, of the same address.   Mr. A. K. Mowll appeared for the applicant, and said the parties were married at Frinsted on October 15th, 1906. On the 1st October, defendant threatened to turn his wife out. On the 23rd October he told her she wanted pole- axing and killing, and throwing down a well< and that he would swing for her. On several occasions before he had ill-treated her, and for the larger part of his life he had been the worse for drink. On the 24th October he turned her out of the house, and locked the door on her. Since then he had asked her to go back, but on these occasions he had been the worse for drink, and she was afraid to go back.   Applicant said she had three children, all under the age of 16. She and her husband went to live at Duvard's Place about ten years ago. For the past few years her husband had treated her unkindly. Three times he had pulled her out of bed and tried to pull her false teeth out. On the 1st October last he came home intoxicated, and told her she was to clear out on Saturday moring at 11 o'clock. On the 23rd October he again came home in- toxicated and complained that the child was sick, and that she did not look after her properly. He threated to kill her, and said he would swing for her. At a quarter to six the next morning he complained that the boy was not up. When she got up he slapped her face. He then had some tea and went away. He came back in the afternoon, and kept grumbling and swearing at her. He said she must go, and pushed her towards the door. She got her things and went, and he fastened the door behind her. She left the children behind. She afterwards went back two or three times, and defendant told her to clera out. After the summons he had offered to take her back, but he was drunk when he did so, and she was afraid to go back. Her husband had got some property and some sheep. He was a dealer.   Defendant (to his wife): Haven't I been a genuine husband to you? - You have been all right at times, but not always.   Haven't I worked? - You have worked, but you have not treated me properly.   Did you say that I wanted another woman in the house? - You said I could not look after the children properly, but you knew of some- body who would, and that I could go.   Mrs. Katherine Matthews, Mill House, Dean's Hill, Bredgar, said she had known defendant for about three years. On Tuesday last he came up in a taxi and was the worse for drink. He asked to see Mrs. Goatham, and she told him she was out. Hen then asked her if she would go for a ride with him, which, of course, she refused to do. She saw him again early on the Wednesday morning, when he was not drunk, but he was muddled. (Laughter.) She saw him about five o'clock the same day, when his condition was about the same. On Friday she saw him again, and he was sober.   Defendant, who elected to give evidence on oath, said they had been married 19 years, and like the rest of married couples had had slight tiffs and ups-and-downs. The present proceed- ings, he said, were a planned plot. He had been invalided out of the Army with a good character. He had suffered from rheumatism and neuritis, and had had 30 week' illness at a stretch. All he could say was that one was as bad as the other.   The Chairman: You admit you were bad then.   Defendant said he wasted half his time in public-houses, which was entirely false. He had offered to take her back, and was fully prepared to forget and forgive. He al- leged that these proceedings were planned by people who were trying to entice his wife away from him.   Mr. Mowll: Would it be true to say you are more often drunk than sober? - No, it would not.   You have never been drunk? - I might have been occasionally, but very seldom.   In answer to the Chairman, Superintendent Hoare said the allegations as to defendant's drinking habits were quite true.   Mr. G. F. Jacques, Police Court Missioner, said although he knew defendant by sight, he knew nothing about his domestic affairs until about ten days ago. When he saw him there appeared to be no sense or reason in him, and he was under the influence of drink. He had come to his (Mr. Jacques') house twice since, and once in an insulting manner. Witness had done his best, but the wife refused to go back.   The Chairman told defendant that until he changed his habits the Bnech would have to make an order. He would have to pay £2 a week, 7/6 in respect of each child, and the balance to the wife.   Defendant said he was willing to let his wife and children have the house, and he would find fresh lodings.   The Chairman: You have got to stop this drinking, or you will very soon come to a bad end. You come from a very good family, and you must try to uphold it. We hope you and your wife will come together again later on.   Mr. Jacques said he would follow the case up, and do his best." (from The East Kent Gazette, Saturday, November 14, 1925, p. 2, col. 3) Sadly the Chairman's comments re Percy coming to a bad end would come true less than 18 months later.
  Family ID	F364	Family Group Page  |  Family Chart

  
  

  Family	Henry MURPHY,   b. 16 Aug 1908, Durham, Co. Durham, England
  Married	Jun Q 1937	Hammersmith Reg Dist, London, England
  	GRO ref: Goatham, Eliza S to Murphy, Henry q2 1937 Hammersmith RD 1a 658
  Children	3 children
  1. Living + 2. Living   3. Living
  Last Modified	8 Feb 2018
  Family ID	F1848	Family Group Page  |  Family Chart

  
  

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