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Selina SLINGSBY
1838 - 1909 (70 years)
Has 184 ancestors and 9 descendants in this family tree.
Set As Default Person 
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Name Selina SLINGSBY Relationship 
with Teresa Ann GOATHAM Born 30 Jan 1838 Kingsnorth, Kent, England 
- Based on census data
GRO ref: Slingsby, Selina q1 1838 West Ashford RD 5 13; GRO online index shows mother's maiden name as HUNT
Actual date from baptism register
Baptised 11 Mar 1838 St. Michael’s Church, Kingsnorth, Kent, England - From the IGI, indexing project (batch) number: I05155-1; source film number: 1786622, extracted 6 Aug 2011
From KFHS CD 28
Gender Female Residence 1871 4, Kingsnorth Road, Ashford, Kent, England - Maria, her dau Selina and Selina's 3 children were living together
Occupation From 1871 to 1881 Ashford, Kent, England Poulterer - (like her mother)
Residence 1881 20, Beaver Place, Ashford, Kent, England Residence 1891 21, Beaver Place, Ashford, Kent, England - Of Selina's children only William was still with her in 1891.
The census shows the house had 4 rooms.
Died Mar Q 1909 Elham Reg Dist, Kent, England - GRO ref: q1 1909 Elham RD 2a 830, aged 71
Buried 23 Mar 1909 St. Michael’s Church, Folkestone, Kent, England - From PR entry (image on FMP, viewed 17 Sep 2022)
Siblings3 brothers and 1 sister Patriarch & Matriarch 
Stephen SLINGSBY, b. Abt 1800, Kingsnorth, Kent, England, d. Sep Q 1867, West Ashford Reg Dist, Kent, England (Age ~ 67 years) (Father) 
Susanna, b. Est 1702, d. Yes, date unknown (3 x Great Grandmother)Notes - There are other examples of a young woman having 1 or even 2 illegitimate children, who often didn't survive, and she usually subsequently married.
But on my tree (at least at the time of writing, when the tree has about 8000 people) this is unprecedented - a single woman with 4 children, the first born when she was 25, the last when she was 34.
Her parents do seem to have separated when this was unusual - did this lead her to think she was better off not living with a man? Did her children have 1 or more fathers? Was "poulterer" a mask for "the oldest profession" or was she a mistress to a married man?
I tend to suspect the latter - but without any good evidence, perhaps because it seems the least objectionable. Is there a clue to his name in the middle name of her first-born?
How did the family react? - well her mother doesn't seem to have reacted too strongly, since they were still living together in 1871 when Selina had 3 children. Of course, maybe her behaviour wasn't a result of her parents living apart, but her parents living apart may have been a result of Selina's behaviour. Perhaps her father through her out and her mother went too - to help Selina get by.
Selina was visiting her daughter Fanny in Folkstone at the time of the 1901 census.
Person ID I4520 All | The descendants (and other halves) of Richard Whitehead and Mary née Grigsby Last Modified 17 Sep 2022
Father Stephen SLINGSBY, b. Abt 1800, Kingsnorth, Kent, England , d. Sep Q 1867, West Ashford Reg Dist, Kent, England (Age ~ 67 years) Mother Maria HUNT, b. 1799, Stockbury, Kent, England , d. Mar Q 1879, West Ashford Reg Dist, Kent, England (Age 80 years) Banns of marriage From 25 Sep 1825 to 9 Oct 1825 St. Mary’s Church, Great Chart, Kent, England Married 12 Oct 1825 St. Michael’s Church, Kingsnorth, Kent, England - From transcribed data on KFHS CD 28
Shows SLINGSBY Stephen (Bachelor) of Great Chart married HUNT Maria (Spinster) 'of this parish' (i.e. Kingsnorth).
Witnesses were Louisa Martha Hallowes and Henry West.
If they'd had 15 children would they still have managed to find names beginning with 'S'?!
Family ID F437 Family Group Page | Family Chart
Children4 children Last Modified 15 Aug 2009 Family ID F3460 Family Group Page | Family Chart
- Based on census data